Without question, condolence cards are the most difficult to send off. So difficult that I often don’t get the card in the mail.
Why is it difficult? Because I don’t know what to say. Most people don’t.
What if we could make picking up the pen easier with a little preparation? As daunting as it is to stare at the blank card stock inside a handmade card, I know I don’t like the regret I feel when I don’t send off the card. Unwritten words weigh heavy on my heart. The words matter both to me (the sender) and to the person who lost a loved one (the receiver).
To lessen the difficulty of getting the heartfelt card in the mail, prepare. I often begin a crafting project with a template to get a jumpstart. Similarly, create a template to help with the words inside the project. Of course, you will want to tweak the suggested words and examples to suit your situation and your relationship to both the recipient and the deceased. This is just a jumpstart for what to write inside the handmade condolence card.
General Words
Start with the words we learned in kindergarten.
I’m sorry.
These two words matter. The same words we would say out loud apply to what we can write. The recipient will appreciate any caring words you write. Already you are off to a great, confident start. Continue:
I’m going to miss her.
I have so many wonderful memories.
I’m thankful to have shared memories with …
The joy … brought to others will not be forgotten.
Be Specific
Remind the recipient why you think their loved one was special, or share a memorable experience you shared with the loved one.
I remember the nice time we had together last year.
One of the things I loved most about …
Offer Support
If you are able to help, offer something specific. Avoid just asking “what can I do?”
Can I help by …
I’m available if you need …
Finding the right words seems paralyzing, but in realty any words matter. Don’t miss the golden opportunity to offer comfort and peace to someone who is mourning. Be prepared with words that matter and send the card. Let go of the excuse that too much time has passed. It’s not too late. Accepting the loss of a loved one is a slow process. Your handmade, hand written card will provide needed reassurance to someone grieving.
Stampin’ Up!’s Gorgeous Posies Project Kit offers an easy way to create the stash of beautiful cards needed when words matter. Add-on the coordinating 10-piece stamp set, and you can create more than the 16 cards in the project kit. Click on the photo for more details.
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